My friend Jenna recently said she can't imagine at all that you can live out the Kama Sutra and sex positions in later life during sex.

What a question! No idea how she came to deal with a topic like that. Positions in older age are a non-issue for me. In my view the topic of "sex" is blown way out of proportion.

Whenever I flip through the glossy magazines, I feel bad every time. After reading an article like "how he likes sex with you best," I get the impression I've been living under a rock for the past 15 years. Afterwards I'm completely insecure and my partner frowns: "Is it that time of the month?".

Kama Sutra and Sex Positions in Later Life, what's supposed to be different about it:

  • less flexibility rules out the best positions
  • only the missionary position works anymore
  • do you have to worry the doctor will show up any minute?
Kama Sutra and sex positions in later life

Still, she got under my skin now, so I'm going to look into the topic.

What Does My Mother Say?

I have an open relationship with my mother. "Mom, what do you think? Are positions in older age more boring?" She was baffled at what I was occupying myself with. I told her about the evening with Jenna and that it's now on my mind. Also that the whole topic really gets on my nerves. Everyone knows better how sex is supposed to work. Isn't it also about love? Isn't it also about just letting yourself go, rather than having to run through ten positions like a mantra during the act?

My mother takes it easy. Positions in older age don't exist for her, so to speak. Surely the odd movement should be avoided, since under some circumstances it turns you off rather than on.

Kama Sutra and Sex Positions in Later Life - the Topic Widens

During the conversation my younger brother Mike joined us. He cracked up laughing and was of the opinion: "At that age, the topic of 'positions in older age' wouldn't even exist for me. By then it's more like the nursing home." Great attitude. Since I already have a thing about being afraid of getting old, that made me even more uneasy.

Kama Sutra and sex positions in later life

He made a joke of everything, and my mother ended the discussion. Everyone is different in older age, she says, and I shouldn't worry about it. In the end everyone has it in their own hands. Through healthy eating and exercise, everyone decides how fit they are, and that has a direct effect on sex life in later years. So I could let it rest, and if Jenna starts in on it again, I don't want to hear any more!