How to End an On-Again Off-Again Relationship

I think many people will know it: on-again off-again relationships. They are by no means rare, yet most people still don't know how to deal with them or how to end them. With this article I'd like to give you a few tips and pieces of advice from me on ending an on-again off-again relationship for good.

Why do you end up in this situation in the first place? Ending an on-again off-again relationship

Most people end up in a situation like this as follows:
They are in a relationship with their partner but aren't happy. The relationship only holds together out of habit. That's how these on-again off-again relationships come about: you can't really let go of each other, out of fear of hurting the other person or fear of not finding a new partner. So you settle for the on-again off-again situation. But should we really? Does that really make us happy?

2 ways to end your on-again off-again relationship for good
It takes quite a bit of courage to step out of your comfort zone and end the relationship. Once you've gotten used to a partner, you don't want to hurt them any more than yourself, so the question now is: how can I end an on-again off-again relationship for good?
First of all, you have to become aware of what you actually want. Do you not want to continue the relationship at all and break up? Or do you want to have the relationship as a committed relationship without the constant on and off?
Once you're aware of that, you've already taken a big step. Now there are these two options, and accordingly different approaches.

Turning the on-again off-again relationship into an "on" relationship
If you're attached to your partner and want to end the on-again off-again relationship because you want a committed relationship with him or her, that is probably the exception, but it's still possible. In that case it's important to explain your attitude and feelings to your partner and also to make sure your partner feels the same way. If that's not the case, then KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF!!! Otherwise there will only be more disappointments.

Ending the on-again off-again relationship for good

If you're sure that's it for the relationship, then be fair to your partner and honestly explain your point of view. Lies or excuses get you nowhere, you know, karma will come and get you otherwise. Look for a personal conversation, maybe order something to eat together in a cozy way to loosen up the situation. Then you simply be yourself and say very honestly why you want to end the relationship. Once you've broken up, then DELETE the contact. It's best not to think about the other person anymore, try to distract yourself so you don't relapse, we don't want that!